As a colleague of Nan’s, I frequently post here when things grab my attention about today’s workplace and sometimes, life. Last week, a colleague who I trusted, broke my trust and damaged our working relationship. I asked him to represent my interests at a meeting instead he only looked out for his interests and sold mine for a very high price tag. I admit I am still confused and disappointed.
• Take a Time Out – You don’t need to call it that. But when you feel like you’re teetering on the edge or spinning toward unproductive emotions, take a time out. Take a couple of deep breaths, walk outside for 5 minutes; get a cup of coffee or a diet coke (that’s what I did.) Self-monitoring can be a valuable skill.
• Be Curious – Once you can breathe normally (how long varies according to who you are and the situation.) Put your curious hat on and ask yourself a few questions. Your answers will help identify what’s next.
- What happened?